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Showing Emotions to my Children

12/4/2019

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I don't hide my sadness from my children.⁠
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Can that make them feel uncomfortable? Sure. It is off-putting when anyone is emoting - especially parents who are often stable and calm.⁠
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To help them through this discomfort, my husband and I teach them how to soothe someone who is feeling low. ⁠
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The messaging is clear "it's not your job to make mummy feel better, but, we can soothe her while her emotions make their way through". We then ask them if they would like to give a hug, have a snuggle, or give a soft a blanket or stuffy.⁠
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Doing this gives them tools to handle not only our emotions, but their friends, classmates, and other adults that they encounter.⁠
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It also teaches them that feelings are normal, and the method of handling them is to feel them, and take care of yourself through the process.⁠
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Today? Well, I was feeling sad because my father-in-law had died, and I just really wanted to see him. My eldest brought me a stuffy, and the twins followed suit with every plush animal in the house.⁠
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Adorable, right?⁠
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But also such a relief. It is easier NOT to pretend to be calm and strong all the time.⁠
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And for my kids? They learn that emotions are normal. They learn how to react lovingly to other people when they are low. Most importantly? They learn how to react lovingly to themselves when they are feeling low.⁠
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If we allow ourselves to feel - our feelings go. And then - they are ready to sleep when it's time for a nap. Nice side benefit eh?⁠
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    Kathleen Hilchey is a mom of 3, sleep coach, and anti-bullying specialist based out of Dundas, Ontario.

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